tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648090185807136154.post7763614697988031209..comments2024-02-23T09:10:16.659+00:00Comments on Crummy Mummy (who drinks): What's your story?Crummy Mummyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16236010469858051562noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648090185807136154.post-75626533836904996192010-12-06T00:19:30.156+00:002010-12-06T00:19:30.156+00:00My story...I have been alone for many, many years....My story...I have been alone for many, many years. I've learned to act as though that's okay, though it's really not. I have great friends and family, but not my own family that I have created. Until recently, when I met a man. Who is nothing like what I thought I would want, but we have some crazy spark, and this level of comfort that surprises the crap out of me every day. And yet...and yet. He is divorced and though we are together in action, he cannot voice it. He has big time commitment issues that hurt my heart, but I am tired of being alone, and he really is a good man. I think. Gack. This is the cycle. We all have our own wheels we run around on. We all have our own crazy. Is it worth it? I don't know yet. Time will tell. But I wish you well. I can't imagine the bravery it takes to face 2 kids. Walk proudly.I feel much better nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11312101050230691986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648090185807136154.post-13149565002399863082010-11-28T13:18:06.167+00:002010-11-28T13:18:06.167+00:00It amazes me how people can live so far apart and ...It amazes me how people can live so far apart and yet still go through such similar struggles. I don't have any answers for you. I can't make up my own mind, but just know that some one else knows exactly how you feel. I pray all the best for you and your kids!Life is Full of Adventures!https://www.blogger.com/profile/11854596110352050905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648090185807136154.post-92193684086723401352010-11-27T14:28:22.511+00:002010-11-27T14:28:22.511+00:00I feel the loneliness sometimes, too. And I don&#...I feel the loneliness sometimes, too. And I don't have kids, don't want them. I'm married and actually am where I wanted to be in life, but still, there's a loneliness and a sense that maybe I missed something. And no, this is not related to kids in any way. It's something different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648090185807136154.post-61542014494623945642010-11-27T09:40:42.313+00:002010-11-27T09:40:42.313+00:00I just want to thank you two commenters for sharin...I just want to thank you two commenters for sharing with me. It really means a lot to me to reach out to folk and in some way to connect - even in anonymous cyberspace. So often people never talk about how hard things are - and being an open book, I have to vent - otherwise I kind of crumble. I feel for you both. <br /><br />Being alone is really hard. When I was a Samaritan I was struck by the amount of people who rang to share a problem - and admitted they had no one else to talk to Not one. It always broke my heart a bit. I miss being a Samaritan - it made me appreciate all I have much more. <br /><br />To the lady with 2 kids - just know that life does change - it moves on and nothing is forever. Maybe you and your husband need a date night to try and talk and remember why you got together in the first place. <br /><br />I wish you both well and thanks for reading.Crummymummyhttp://www.crummymummywhodrinks.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648090185807136154.post-58019196030871768502010-11-26T20:10:11.816+00:002010-11-26T20:10:11.816+00:00You expressed this so well. I just had my second b...You expressed this so well. I just had my second baby 4 months ago and like you, feel like a single parent, as my husband works crazy hours and our family are all in Australia. Even when he is around he is shattered from work, or on the blackberry, and completely disinterested in the children (something I wouldn't have picked before we had them). I had to quit work as my hours and the travel involved in the job was completely inconsistent with raising kids, but husband, who is in the same field, had to make no such sacrifice and continues to climb the corporate ladder. Our sex life is currently non-existed because I feel so resentful/tired/disconnected so much of the time. I am lucky, I suppose, in that he earns enough for me to pay for some help, but its a lonely, gilded cage. I often wonder, how did I end up here? Is there something/someone better out there for me? Should I stay or should I go, and if I go, what about the children? So I can't answer your questions, just letting you know there are others out there asking them too. xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648090185807136154.post-81485255307570311632010-11-26T19:36:53.909+00:002010-11-26T19:36:53.909+00:00I really feel for you, reading this. You have such...I really feel for you, reading this. You have such a great way with words to tell your story. Together, with someone, yet so alone. I don't have any answers. I just want to say I am alone. No kids, no partner, no family, few friends. That's not a great existence either. You have love in your life. Soon, 2 beautiful children. I would focus on that. Keep strong. Believe in your love. Your family. Try to find the strength and happiness in what you do have. Being alone is hard. Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. Try not to think about what you don't have, but the beautiful things you do. It will get better I am sure. Sending you hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com